Live and Die for a Selfie

Live and Die for a Selfie

In the age of social networking and communication, image is everything – sort of mantra that resonates and reverberates in both traditional and digital media. To appear to be or not to be, this seems to be the new and insane rule to follow, to show the world you exist, even at the cost of losing your life.

A global phenomenon that involves young and old, a trend that has its roots in the past but that, today, also reaps victims: as a matter of fact, if the selfie seemed like something nice to remember good times, now you may lose your life hoping to capture a moment of thrill, an astonishing sensation, that attracts a large number of likes or followers.

A race towards an illusory success that sometimes, however - too often lately - leads to death.

The data of those dead due to the selfie

Already a year ago, the Carnegie Mellon University of Pennsylvania had compiled a list of 170 names of people who died for extreme selfies. All dead for trying to photograph themselves on a bike, then hit their heads and die, on top of a building hanging from an eave, then losing their grip, or even on the high-speed train tracks…

A trend that has no age boundaries, but often decrees the end of life for the very young that escape their parents’ control and law enforcement in search of the "coolest" selfie that lets them brag about themselves.

This phenomenon is so fast-growing that some states’ laws have banned selfying: the Indian state of Goa, for example, has decided to ban selfies because of the numerous deaths caused by repeated attempts to make extreme shots.

Why do we take selfies?

Selfie means self-timer, but semantically it also means "little self," as suggested by Pamela Rutledge, of the Massachusetts School of Professional Psychology , since the diphthong "ie" refers to the diminutive connotation of affection.

31% of teenagers take selfies to remember, 11% due to boredom and 8.5% to laugh. 15.5% share all the selfies on social networks and WhatsApp, especially girls. Data already emerged in 2016 following the survey by the Observatory on adolescent trends and behavior, led by Maura Manca, psychotherapist and director of

In a historical period contaminated by cell phones everywhere, the selfie has the best of every form of communication: it is the expression par excellence of the empty narcissism that characterizes our time. Sometimes senseless and deadly, it represents nothing but the desperate attempt to affirm one's own identity and feel part of a system.

The gratification deriving from the sharing of one's own image is decreed by the signs of consent that the virtual communities offer (liking, sharing, commenting). Looking for a personal branding or marketing of yourself, you end up losing everything, even your life.

The possibility to share those moments immortalized in a photo, daughters of a sporadic use of advanced technological tools, contribute to giving life to what Musil called the "man without quality": fickle, without a purpose in the service of which to place his great intellectual talents.

As Christopher Lasch argues, over the years the concept of narcissism has taken on a social dimension, reflecting everyday trends and behaviors, and that the fall of the great ideologies has led to models of exasperated individualism that have edged towards egotism or cult practices of one's body or sexual liberation.

A pathological narcissism, pushed to the extreme with the arrival of social networks and that today is experienced as socially acceptable behavior.

After all, anyone can enjoy the great feeling of looking at their own selfie and realizing that they have created a fantastic work…but calling for a loss of life to take a selfie that you risk never see!

But why are the youth so attracted to selfies?

Young people have always needed to define and affirm their own identity. During adolescence, above all, and throughout life, anyone needs to define their own "self" in a continuous oscillation between the "personal self" – that is how everyone sees oneself – and the "social self," how others perceive ourselves.

In periods of definition of one's own identity, like adolescence, selfies become one of the most used tools to understand who one is and who one wants to become.

The question arises: but in the past, without selfies, how did you create your own self? Through interactions with peers, reference groups, and one’s family.

And the crux of the matter is always the same: the lack of time dedicated to young people, in an extremely delicate period for their growth and development.

A group of peers that is ever more virtual, who shares only the beautiful parts of life. After all that, who would share the bad or sad moments on social networks?

A family unit in which the rules are set aside and everything is justified in the name of modernity and the use of technology.

In addition, adults become ever more adolescent and compete with their children even on social media. Parents are becoming more like a friends and less like a parents and therefore less attentive to the consumption habits of technological tools.

In short, it would be enough to set aside the phones during dinner, devote more time and energy to understand what youth really want, support them and help them in defining their own self without demonizing the technological means but helping them to understand some real (off-line) social dynamics.

Listening plays a fundamental role. Behind the selfies that are more or less dangerous, there are guys looking for social reassurance that maybe they do not even have it inside their own home. Parents have the task of taking on this new challenge, starting a dialogue in the family, and transforming the table at home in a moment of conviviality where tablets and smartphones remain switched off and in their pockets.

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